Help, helper??

Tonight, Bunn brought up the topic of getting a helper. It's not the first time we talked about this. Before, we said... maybe if I get a perm job and it is busier... somehow we managed to fit into the "busier" routine. Then we said... maybe if Bunn's new job is busier... somehow we managed to fit into the busier routine again.

I always thought if we survived the 1st 2 years of Kang's birth, we should be ok. But I think both of us have been very stressed out by the kids' behaviour and this is really draining us. We seldom have peace of mind and good sleep, this is the main problem.

I dread the thought of getting a problematic helper. Bunn said this is not a problem, we can keep changing till we get a decent one. The inconvenience he refuses to put up with is the loss of privacy. For me, this is compounded on top of a problematic helper. And my solution? I thought of using machines to help us. Maybe get a dryer so that Bunn doesn't have to hang the laundry anymore, but this will increase our monthly PUB bill. Maybe a dish washer to wash all the daily stuff (lame excuse?), but this will also increase our PUB bill.

I don't know... is it worth spending on machines and increasing our bills to save our privacy and get the job maybe half done, or just forget and get a helper? We planned the spare room really as a guest room to welcome our loved ones, not as a helper's room. Dilemma.... I am really tempted to try the machine solution first.